Moving (Or: Things to throw away)

So, it is slowly starting to sink in. Slowly. In about 5 weeks, I will be in the Netherlands. For good.

On Sunday, I finally got inspiration to start throwing things out. Mind you, I am not really a pack rat, or at least haven’t been since I moved to the east coast in 2008 (just so my parents don’t raise an eyebrow, I threw in that clarification). For at least half a year after I moved here, my “kitchen table” was a (large) microwave box. You get used to things – mostly. The current “kitchen table” is a rather low, small table which still allows me to sit on the ground when I eat. I like that.

Most of my “junk” is in the aptly-named junk drawers and in my closet. On Sunday, I threw out 3 trash bags. I would guess that I have probably 5 or 6 bags to go — not including some things that won’t fit in a trash bag, like old luggage or an airbed I used before having my new bed delivered a few months after I moved in.

And then the next task would be seeing just how heavy the luggage I am taking with will be… Hmm.

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On the IND (Or: Applying for a Dutch MVV as an American)

The following is a timeline for what Marco and I had to do when we were forced to get a MVV. In July we found out on the Immigration and Naturalization Service (IND) website that the law for “Family Migration Measures” was changing.

That law said that effective Oct 1 we would need to already be married before I moved to the Netherlands. As we want to get married on Dutch soil, we decided to submit a request for an MVV (provisional residence permit) to get into the system prior to the law changing. Once started, MVV requests take up to three months. We had to get a move on as I wanted to move in mid December. Of course, it’s quite possible the law will be repealed due to a new government, but for now it is currently in effect.

[Note: MVV forms are generally found on the CONSULATE’S webpages, not the IND’s official page. As the American consulate doesn’t have one, we downloaded this copy from minbuza.nl.]

TL;DR:
MVV request submitted (to NYC consulate): Wednesday, September 5 (i.e. before Oct 1! yay!)
MVV request approved (by the IND): Thursday, November 8

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Weds July 18 – We found out the law for “Family Migration Measures” was changing.

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Gezinsmigratiemaatregelen (Or: A bump in the road)

The above subject means “Family Migration Measures”. Or, in simple terms “One big headache”. You see, the previous Dutch government passed a law stating that to form a family – i.e. what Marco and I were officially doing — required both parties to already be married before the foreigner moved to the Netherlands. Originally it was supposed to take effect July 1, which was delayed. But in mid-July we got word that it would take effect in October 1. But my last day of work is December 14, and I cannot leave any earlier. Although there has been some dispute, the law is still technically in effect.

So, briefly: as we wanted to get married in the Netherlands in 2013, Marco and I had to get into the IND’s system before October 1. The only way to do that was to turn in an MVV form (temporary residence permit request) prior to that date, even though Americans are normally exempt. Since Americans are exempt, it caused a lot of headaches trying to get the process rolling as US consulates don’t really handle many requests.

The MVV application was officially received at IND on September 3. On November 9, Marco received word that our MVV form had received approval. So it is official – after getting through the first of many red tape situations, I can now move to the Netherlands!

Niki’s thoughts:

All of this craziness went down in mid-July about a week before his birthday. Twice IND told us I had to take the civic integration exam if I wanted to submit an MVV (Americans are normally exempt from that as well). So Marco dutifully paid 350 euros for a test, and I studied my heart out for three weeks and sacrificed sleep. After three weeks or so, we were given official confirmation that we did not have to take the test. He is still waiting for his refund.

In total, our lives were pretty much hell for 6 weeks until we were able to submit the form in early September. As all sources of information said Americans did not have to apply in advance before the move, we were caught unprepared in terms of documentation.

The upsides included:
1) My spoken Dutch briefly improved while studying for the test, but it went downhill again after
2) We started videochatting daily (as we needed to speak Dutch) rather than just typing messages, and ended up continuing that tradition afterwards
3) The permanent residency permit should come a bit faster as we already have approval for the MVV

Of course, it seems so long ago already, as it is already November. But I can say we were definitely getting a bit nervous the last week or so, as we haven’t been able to book any plane tickets yet. We will this week – we are hoping to get confirmation from the Washington consulate sent to my mail address, in addition to the letter Marco already received at his Dutch address.

Marco’s thoughts:

Ugh. This entire process annoyed me so much.
Even worse, it mad me feel guilty since one of the reasons we decided to live in the Netherlands was because it would be so easy for an American (or any 1st world country citizen) to move here.
Technically up until October 1st she would have been allowed to just walk into the country without any additional papers required and then just go to the IND the next morning and tell them to sign her up for “family migration” (at which point she would need the same papers & documents we used now but we could’ve done it all together and she’d be already here..)

Nobody, including the IND knows why they pushed this rule through.. well it’s because of the right wing party that was briefly in our government, but there is no logical reason to have it apply to *everyone*.
At least we knew they would grant her the permit.
No reason to deny it to a person you’d usually welcome with open arms.
So all in all it was just a small bump in the road, about the size of a Dutch mountain. 🙂

Still..I was getting anxious. I had just spent half the day whining to Roger through email that it was taking so long. Then I arrived home and saw the letter. And all frustration was forgotten 🙂

So go find your old ‘Europe’ albums. The final countdown has started! Yes! Yes! Yes!

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Choices (Or: Weighing the decision to move to the Netherlands)

In addition to the laundry diagram that Marco found, another old thing that he found was the pro and con lists he and I made back in July 2011 when I visiting. They related to the decision of moving to the Netherlands or him moving to United States.

It wasn’t until September 2011, though, that we made the final decision to have me move to the Netherlands. This was just the first of many discussions about it.

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Fall (Or: Leaves along the side of the road)

Fall is here.

In the above picture, you can see a tree branches and leaves waiting for pickup – with the leaves extended pretty far down the road. On the right edge, there is also a green metal box. That is a relay box used by the U.S. Post Office. Where I live, the mail is delivered by postal workers on foot, so at certain spots in their route they stop at the relay boxes. Inside each is mail to retrieve for that specific part of the area.

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Candy (Or: Halloween after a hurricane)

I figured that the students and staff would need a little pick-me-up after the craziness of Hurricane Sandy, as classes only resumed yesterday. And then yesterday’s evening classes were canceled due to the Nor’easter! (winter storm)

Here is the candy that I purchased and passed out today (along with a cute orange pumpkin pail!):

So, there is:

1) Starburst chewy fruit candy

2) Skittles Riddles – (more chewy fruit candy) the flavor doesn’t match the color 😉

3) various chocolates – Hershey’s, Reese’s peanut butter cups, Whoppers malted milk balls, and Kit Kat bars; Nestle crunch (not shown in the picture)

So far I have managed not to eat anything myself. Go me.

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4 years (Or: Change I believe in)

From Marco…

Change.
In November 2008 the world as we knew it changed. The unthinkable happened.

Since then, we’ve been on a crazy roller coaster filled with steps forward and steps back. We’ve slowly climbing up towards the top of the mountain, creating a better place, a better world. No, I’m not talking about politics, but I cannot help but bring up the timeline and make some comparisons.

In late October ’08 I visited Niki and saying goodbye was so hard to do. When I left it was still just as a friend but that changed when we got to talk a few days later. Basically we just said “let’s try this..see where we can go from here”. Or, to tie it in to the political storm at the time.There was change in the air and we said “Yes, we can!”

A lot has happened in those four years, even though it seems like we’ve only made small steps. Back in early ’09 we already talked about our future plans, knowing that if we wanted to make the long distance work it couldn’t be just a simple “boyfriend-girlfriend” thing. We thought ahead, talked about living together eventually and even about family plans (see if each of us wanted kids)
Then for a while there was a little status quo. We knew what we wanted, we didn’t actively work on getting there yet.

Moving to another country (in either way) is a big change and while we believed in it, we didn’t want to rush into anything. Then of course the past year the wheels have been set in motion.
Four years, it seems like such a long time..so much has changed around us in the world. But also for ourselves. Niki went from going to college to working at a college. We’ve gone through a lot together, visiting places, spending time, figuring out the future. Yet in a way it’s just like many say about the Obama presidency the past four years.. “How’s my life different than it was four years ago? How have things improved?”

Well..I say that life definitely has changed for both Niki and myself but in a way it’s all been small stuff. Setting the stage for the big one, the actual move to the Netherlands. And then we can move on with life, move….Forward!

(Yes, I am very pleased with myself that I started with the slogan from 4 years ago and ending with the current one)

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Election 2012 (Or: Rockefeller Plaza)

Today is Election Day, and Rockefeller plaza is all decked out!

http://nyclovesnyc.blogspot.com. Click the image to be taken to the blog post, with many more images (including this photo in a much larger size).

One of the coolest things that Rockefeller Plaza does is draw a map of the United States into the world famous ice rink. As each state’s winner is determined, that state is colored either blue or red (see a 2008 example).

Rendering of what the area will look like, including the map of the United States not yet colored in. Official website

Flickr/Andrew Dallos. Click on the image to see the photographer’s page, as well as download a larger size.

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Hurricane Sandy (Or: Returning to work)

As I have mentioned, my workplace (a college) has been closed due to Hurricane Sandy and a rather nasty power outage in that area.

A few days ago I received a text message from the college, stating that offices would re-open tomorrow (aka I go in) and classes would resume Wednesday. The Dean of Students said they would get in touch soon about how the missed time would be made up this semester.

Yesterday I received an additional text that power had been restored and that the email server was back up. I must admit it was quite a weird feeling to be glad to get back into my email again — to get back into the routine again. One email was from a student looking to re-book their room reservation for downstairs, as it had been originally scheduled for Monday, October 29.

Another email stated that a group of staff and students from the college are currently down in Tom’s River, NJ helping out today. Donation boxes would be placed across our residence halls to help out with the effort in that town.

And then Wednesday the students return, so I finally get to bring in the Halloween candy I bought about two weeks ago!

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Sandy (Or: Dutch marathoners help out)

Marco pointed me to a news story where a group of Dutch runners decided to help with the relief efforts after finding out that the New York marathon would be canceled. Here was a tweet from the Newark, New Jersey mayor:

News article (Dutch | English)

As reports had stated that 40,000 of the 47,000 expected runners were already in the city when the marathon was canceled by Mayor Bloomberg, it does make sense. (Although the logistics of moving around that many helpers is something you would need to tackle as well.)

The title sponsor of the marathon, ING, said it would donate half a million dollars to the relief effort, while Poland Spring (a bottled water company) said it would donate the 200,000 bottles of water which were to be used during the marathon itself.

Other stories of New York marathon runners helping out:

Running Staten Island to deliver essentials (their Facebook page)

World Vision marathoners distribute food

Race2Recover – Donating hotel rooms for the relief effort (and requesting a hotel room)

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